tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post305745615093004436..comments2023-05-09T02:42:28.203-07:00Comments on <center>Control</center>: Need advice - Afraid of Success and other awesome BSPrettyWreckhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10570833366699365533noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-22447524241955424632009-07-20T17:11:01.503-07:002009-07-20T17:11:01.503-07:00Hmm... I'm actually going to disagree with ev...Hmm... I'm actually going to disagree with every one else. I'm concerned that you're rationalizing, that you have no real idea what you want, and that you're effectively deaf to that internal voice that tells you what makes you happy because you're pretty good at just about everything you've tried which makes it impossible to differentiate between enjoying the thing itself and enjoying the satisfaction of being good at it.<br /><br />And yes, I think all these things because they describe me and I see the last 20 years of my life in your post.<br /><br />Here's my advice -- change NOTHING until you talk to an academic advisor at your college about your options. You may need to apply for a leave of absence in orer to be allowed to re-register after taking time off without applying again. You may be able to qualify for financial aid of which you're currently unaware. You may be able to do work-study, or get a paid internship, or cut back on your class load. But you won't know until you talk to someone who's job is advising you on precisely these issues -- and who doesn't share your perfectionist tendencies to throw yourself headlong into the next new thing because the last one didn't work out so well.<br /><br />I hope no one takes that last comment too badly. It's not really criticism, just honesty, and primarily self-descriptive. I only suspect that a good number of the women here are like me in this sense.<br /><br />Talk to an advisor!<br /><3E.Delevanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00603551118460764970noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-55913738977170248322009-07-20T09:16:54.799-07:002009-07-20T09:16:54.799-07:00I am very much like you.
You pretty much describe...I am very much like you. <br />You pretty much described ME when you were describing yourself.<br /><br />I could give you a big long speech about success and failure and fear and desires and this and that and what you should do and blah blah blah. But I'm not going to, because no matter what we say, it is ultimately your decision.<br /><br />And you are 22. Three-four months of your life to pursue your possible calling in life is NOTHING in the long scheme of things. <br /><br />And you will never know if you like it until you try.<br /><br />Whether you think you can, or you think you cant.. You're right. <br /><br />Ya know? :) Best of luck babygirl.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-5405201409128403412009-07-20T02:06:03.789-07:002009-07-20T02:06:03.789-07:00I’m going to try to keep this short and to the poi...I’m going to try to keep this short and to the point (like you, I tend to ramble a lot, and I don’t want my comment and response to wind up convoluted and elicit a “huh??” haha). The key word here is TRY.<br /><br />I think you should go for it. Take the plunge. On the one hand, like you said, you might not go back to school. In a sense, this happened to me. I took a year off after high school when I moved overseas, then found out I HAD to take off another two years due to some stupid overseas student laws here in the UK. But, by the time it came to applying to go after the third year… I didn’t see the point.<br /><br />Which is not necessarily a bad thing.<br /><br />Instead, I have a steady job, that is easy and almost entirely stress-free (save for the odd bump in the road), working with decent people on a decent wage. At this point in my life, it felt like quitting my job to go to University was a step in the wrong direction, a step backward. But then, I don’t have a dream career or a big passion that I want to realize, that would require a university degree to attain.<br /><br />If you did take a semester off, qualified for your CPT, and got the job… that’s a good thing. I think you have to step back and ask yourself: if you DIDN’T go back to school… well, would it be such a bad thing?<br /><br />At least in that case, you would have something tangible, a decent job with better wages and hours and something you really enjoy. You said yourself right now that you can’t do what you want with school because of the job you’re in. Given the options, going for the CPT sounds to me like the best option. Either you take the semester off to concentrate on qualifying and getting the job, and then wind up going back to school but with an easier schedule and likely less stress; or you take the semester off, wind up with a great job, don’t go back to school – but at least you’ve still got a better job.<br /><br />If you want the CPT job to open up doorways to a career, then do you really NEED college to do it? Don’t get me wrong, I believe that college education is very important *IF* you’re passionate about something or it will get you a career. But if you’ve found something you’re passionate about AND can make a career out of it, and college isn’t a necessary factor for either part of the equation, then does it matter? <br /><br />I’m kind of playing devil’s advocate here. I mean, I don’t know you well at all, and I don’t know your circumstances or what you plan to do after you finish school, but again if becoming a Personal Trainer is a career you’d like and love, then go for it.<br /><br />Wishing you all the best, keep us posted!<br /><br />Vee xxVeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02706287420706514623noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-23700163355991447152009-07-19T13:43:18.818-07:002009-07-19T13:43:18.818-07:00Wow, I feel like I really related to this post, be...Wow, I feel like I really related to this post, because I'm 21 and only a second year because I've started and stopped school 3 times. Honestly, I think you should take it off. In fact, it sounds like not taking it off would be setting yourself up for failure because you know you can't do your school work and work the current job you have now. I know it seems like you'll be setting yourself back, but in the long run, I'm sure it's the best decision. And it sounds like you know that already. <br />Good luck, I'm sure you'll be a success what ever you choose. You're too smart to be a failure ; ) <3Dorothyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04848563309218540255noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-74770340177432315102009-07-19T13:28:43.585-07:002009-07-19T13:28:43.585-07:00Oh this post was filled with so many options! I th...Oh this post was filled with so many options! I think that if you sit down without any distractions and really think about it, you'll find that you already know what you want to do. I usually already have an answer picked out in my head that I'm leaning more towards, and if I try to go against that I start getting plagued with guilt and self-doubt ;) <br /><br />In any case, you shouldn't feel bad about taking a semester off school to get your CPT certification, it will look excellent on your resume, and you'll feel good about what you're doing as well as bringing in a better income. If you really want to go back to school, you will. If in your heart, you don't... then you won't, and it probably isn't for the best. But I'm sure that you will and everything will sort itself out. <br /><br />Thank you also for the lovely, meaningful comment on my blog and sharing that story. I really do need to search deep for a moment like yours so I can track my emotions and feelings better. <br /><br />You are truly amazing and have done so much in your short life!! Remember that, hun. <br /><br />All my support.Savory Sweethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01854692427283938498noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-56009227757948384012009-07-19T10:38:19.423-07:002009-07-19T10:38:19.423-07:00I think you should take the semester off, get your...I think you should take the semester off, get your CPT certification and go back to school in January. I think all the stress of trying to everything now would be a lot of stress. You have the support of your parents to do it too which is a big plus. <br /><br />It's better change and do things now rather than later. You said yourself you'd regret not getting the CPT and likely you'd regret that you weren't able to commit to the time to build it properly because you piled too much onto your plate.<br /><br />It's vital that you are doing what you want to do otherwise regret rears it's ugly self into your life. I totally get the whole age thing but better now than later cuz you only grow older. Figuring out what you want to do now is what 20s are for so that the 30s will be happier and more fulfilling.<br /><br />Good Luck Sweetie.Lina (of Flushed)https://www.blogger.com/profile/18422488691637743606noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-2561679035773690222009-07-19T08:48:22.059-07:002009-07-19T08:48:22.059-07:00I definitely think you need to get you CPT certifi...I definitely think you need to get you CPT certification. It sounds like what you really want to do right now and as long as you go for it full force you'll be fine. It will be better for you to be a personal trainer while going to school so that's definitely a plus. So take off the semester and... Just go for it! By the way, thanks for your great comments. They really made me feel amazing.<br /><br />xo<br />elienaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-18276830755562451812009-07-19T07:06:06.202-07:002009-07-19T07:06:06.202-07:00hi pretty... here's my advice: do the thing th...hi pretty... here's my advice: do the thing that will end with you HAVING something concrete to work with. i have the same fear you have - and now i'm 33 and still treading water. i also went back to school several times (enrolled in 6 post-secondary programs, completed 2, neither of which has landed me in a career i care about or with anything specific to work towards). if i could go back and do it over, i would hone in on something specific. i wouldn't say my english degree is completely useless, but it hasn't gotten me anywhere specific. i still feel like the same unfocused, misguided, undirectioned kid i was more than 10 years ago. don't end up like this. if you have something specific in mind right now that you are compelled to do (the CPT) then friggin do it. i know you're terrified of not finishing your degree... but you have an opportunity now to get a certification in a relatively short period of time. success requires a little bit of risk. if you succeed at the CPT certfication, it might give you the confidence you need to go back and finish your degree. i totally think your step-mom is right. <br />either way, you need to do something, and they're both scary. i say go with your gut. if your gut is telling you to get this certification, don't ignore it. you'll regret it later.<br />good luck! i'll be thinking about you and hoping you feel good about whatever you decide. harness the energy you have now to get what you want... it gets harder the older you get.<br />sending positive vibes and hugs your way!*~*https://www.blogger.com/profile/04921334034619985198noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-468743774600775831.post-67613745936649418332009-07-19T04:43:33.050-07:002009-07-19T04:43:33.050-07:00The connection between social networking, and pseu...The connection between social networking, and pseudo-photography, obsessed with proving that their subjects' are having a 'good time' means two things. First, that those subjects' interior lives are devalued. Second, that very little stands between a woman's clothed body and the eyes of the world rendering her naked.Geist Biteshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12523365008483776036noreply@blogger.com